*Note: For the purposes of this blog, “same sex” refers to people working together to create a sexual bond with a partner who has the same anatomical sexual body parts as the other. You can alternatively exchange the term “same sex” for “same gender” or “same bits/parts”.
** Additionally, for the purposes of this blog we will refer to those assigned female at birth, as “female” or “women” and those assigned male at birth as “male” or “men”. We acknowledge that there is a beautiful array of genders and that gender does not convey anatomy.
Whether you’re looking to get more comfortable in your sex life or looking to spice things up with your partner(s), sex toys can be just the right thing to take your same sex relationship(s) to the next level physically and romantically. Keep reading to explore 10 of the Best Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist Approved Products for Same Sex Relationships:
For same sex relationships between female/female, vagina/vagina, or lesbian couples:
If you’re in a vagina/vagina same sex relationship, taking scissoring to the next level can sometimes seem like a challenge— the angles, the motion, the connection. But with the RockHer™ Mini Scissoring Vibrator, at least it gets to be a sensationally fun one!
Wetforher.com describes the RockHer™ Mini Scissoring Vibrator like this:
“Created especially with scissoring in mind, this unique toy has 10 vibrational settings and wireless remote control. This is a must-have for long time lovers of frottage and for novices wanting to explore the world of scissoring.”
Non-anatomical sex toys are perfect for female/female, vagina/vagina, or lesbian couples, because not everyone wants a penis/phallus coming at them.
Wetforher.com describes the Pink Lover like this:
“The intimately contoured vibrating massager is as thrilling as it is versatile with a flexible body, multi-directional positioning and 10 indulgent vibration functions.
The 100% play area, waterproof seal and unique flexibility allow you to use this toy as a discreet panty teaser for pleasure on-the-go or a sensual mini vibe for in and out of the water. Enjoy dual stimulation with the Lover’s insertable g-spot massager and external stimulator for all over sensations.”
Looking to add a little bit of buzz to your foreplay while maintaining control of the experience? The Finger Extender might just be the right fit for you and your partner.
Wetforher.com describes the Finger Extender like this:
“Designed to ergonomically accommodate two of your fingers comfortably and securely, the Two Finger Extender provides a pleasurable elongation whilst maintaining control.
This ensures you reach the right spot! It’s the perfect partner for finger play. Made entirely from medical grade silicone, the Two Finger Extender is super soft to touch and body safe.”
Looking for a sensation of fullness during play? These silicone dildos just might be the thing to take you over the edge with your partner(s)!
Uberrime.com describes the SensiPlatinum Dildo like this:
“Soft and sensationally shaped, Sensi by Uberrime is a unique combo: a vaginal plug that works as a G-spot dildo! This hand-crafted toy features a pronounced ridge and strong curve for G-spot stimulation. In a delightfully squeezable silicone, Sensi take clenching and kegel exercises up a level.
Made from certified skin-safe platinum silicone, Sensi’s form is meant to be held and squeezed and features a satin finish for a luxurious feel. Based on tester feedback, Sensi has a smaller base—designed for comfortable long-term wear between the labia.”
In a same sex relationship, one partner may love penetration and the other may not, so this allows both to get the best of both worlds! use the bumper as a way to externally stimulate the vulva and clit while still pleasuring your partner.
Wetforher.com describes the BumpHer like this:
“The BumpHer is a soft and supple silicone cover designed to be worn at the base of a dildo. Not only does it provide extra padding, but it also features curves that contour the clitoris providing sensual stimulation to the wearer during strap-on sex. The BumpHer fits comfortably and securely with all Wet For Her dildo base shapes measuring up to 3.25 inches in width. It is compatible with open o’ring and underwear harnesses.”
For same sex relationships between male/male, penis/penis, or gay couples:
- Silver Silicone Lubricant by Sliquid (Use code Laura10 for 10% off)
Silicone lubricant is more comfortable for anal sex due to it’s thicker consistency. The lubes don’t contain any water, which means they don’t get absorbed during use. However, you shouldn’t use Silicone lubes with sex toys because it breaks down the surface. Instead, you’ll want to opt for a water-based lube. (See the next product for my fave!)
Sliquid describes their Silver Silicone -Based Lubricant like this:
“Sliquid Naturals Silver is a pharmaceutical grade silicone personal lubricant and is Sliquid’s Premium formulation. Super long-lasting and 100% waterproof, it is the perfect choice for those who need a lubricant to last. Made from an ultra-concentrated blend of pharmaceutical grade silicones, Sliquid Naturals Silver will last for hours with only a few drops and is easy to clean up with simple soap and water (except some fabrics).”
- Satin Water-Based Lubricant by Sliquid (Use code Laura10 for 10% off)
If you’re using toys, a quality water-based lubricant is a must. The only caveat: you’ll have to reapply often.
Sliquid describes their Satin Water-Based Lubricant like this:
“Sliquid Organics Natural is the base formula for the entire Sliquid Organics line of products and is our premiere Organics product. It is the equivalent of H2O, coupled with added organic extracts. Like all Sliquid products, it is entirely glycerine and paraben-free, in addition to containing no sugar derivatives. Created using the cleanest ingredients, this lubricant is designed to keep your most intimate areas soft and smooth, while healing and soothing your skin. Additionally, with being aloe-based and water-soluble, it is extremely easy to clean up. This blend will not become sticky or tacky, because it is designed to emulate your body’s own lubrication.”
Reusable enemas are great for bottoms because it allows you to select the type of cleanser you want (it needs to be water or saline, not miralax) and to enjoy your pleasures in a more Earth-friendly way! (Goodbye single-use garbage!)
GNEGKLEAN describes their reusable enema like this:
“The premium Enema douche bulb kit is ultra soft, firm and flexible. Easy to insert and totally non-pain, to ensure a comfortable experience.”
- Intimate Rose Silicone Dilators (Use code LAURA6 for $5 off)
Looking to get a little loose with your partner? Try dilators!
Intimate Rose describes their dilators like this:
“The Intimate Rose Full Anal Dilator Set includes sizes 1-8 of our high-quality, medical-grade rectal dilators. They are firm enough to hold their shape, but are significantly smoother and more comfortable than dilators made of plastic. The smooth, hourglass shape helps to relax the pelvic floor and reduce symptoms of pelvic pain, and restore or improve elasticity of the anal opening..”
- Tor2 Cock Ring by Lelo (Use code LAURA15 for 15% off)
Adding a cock ring to anal play in your same sex relationship can make things interesting by adding an element of more longevity and buzz to the experience.
Lelo describes Tor2 like this:
“TOR™ 2 is a sophisticated couples’ ring that enhances the sensations for both partners during sex. It is fully waterproof and features an easy-to-use two-button control interface with six stimulation modes, consistently delivering the most thrilling excitement into the bedroom. TOR™ 2 is suitable to use in any position, fits all shapes and sizes, and is fully waterproof.”
If you or your partner are struggling with pelvic pain or manual manipulation with one-another, a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist can help:
I aim to ensure my practice serves humans from all walks of life regardless of background, preference, or situation – including those in a same sex relationship. To make myself accessible to all, I offer a FREE 20-minute discovery call for anyone in the world who may be struggling with their pelvic health.
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