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She Comes First


She Comes First is a great guide on how to pleasure a woman; written by Ian Kerner, a professional and experienced sex therapist. Learn the actual workings of the vaginal and clitoral orgasm; and why penetration is not always the answer. It’s time to learn what actually works for a woman, and to bust the myths commonly believed by society.

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Recommended by Dr. Laura Meihofer

This product is recommended by Dr. Laura Meihofer, a licensed Physical Therapist, athletic trainer and yoga instructor specalizing in pelvic floor therapy.

The Importance of Anatomy


One of the first incredibly important lessons the author of She Comes First discusses is actual vaginal anatomy. Do you actually know the structure of the vulva? More importantly, do you know what parts of that anatomy are the sensitive, pleasure-inducing ones? If not, that’s okay! Reading this book can be your first step. By learning this basic but necessary knowledge of vaginal anatomy, you’ll be better prepared to help discover and understand what a woman needs for proper arousal and pleasure.


This book was written for those with a penis who are trying to better their understanding of how to pleasure those with a vulva. However, even if you don’t have a penis, you may still find the anatomical lessons and professional advice useful for your partner (if they are someone with a vulva) or even yourself! Everyone is welcome on the journey to better pleasure!


Learn How To Pleasure a Woman


Ian Kerner provides a lot of insight on restructuring the way you think of sex. When you imagine how to pleasure a woman, the goal shouldn’t just be to “get it done” as fast as possible. Rather than a race, providing your partner with a proper intimate experience means being willing to put in all the effort sincerely, from start to finish.


Some of the topics discussed in this intimate guide include:


  • The importance of foreplay for arousal
  • Penetration isn’t the only form of pleasure
  • The significance of the clitoris for climax
  • All the sensitive areas of a woman’s anatomy


With this guide, you’ll be much better educated and prepared on how to pleasure a woman. Just remember not all women experience pleasure the same, and you’ll need to communicate with your partner properly for the best results!